Self-confidence is the quality that has most impact on your surroundings.
It’s not eyelashes, bone structure or hair although those things may be a part of the picture of what people think is attractive. Would you believe #1 is self-confidence? Hands down, it dictates how you carry yourself and what you project to others. What you project is success whether it’s already manifested or not; confidence projects potential success and just that you are a ‘winner’.
What do you think it is that determines whether you believe some Internet Marketer telling you to follow him into a business opportunity? Yes it is of course about the program or product and the potential to earn money, but the main thing that makes you listen, believe and take action is the speaker’s confidence!
Visualize if some guy in a tattered shirt, long in the mouth (frowning, eyes down) tells you about a program he thinks is really going to be the balm. Would you be likely to believe him? Very few would; but if he had a big smile, tattered shirt or not, if he appeared happy and to believe what he is saying you may really give it a chance based on his personality and delivery.
Seriously people are attracted to other people who might be able to help them find their way. We are all looking for that person. Of course we have to realize that happiness comes from within. We have to be happy to attract another happy person (rather than to be miserable and expect somebody to make us happy) It is the same with confidence.
If you want to learn how to have self-confidence, learn to emulate those people you admire and who seem to have personalities that just shine. Of course don’t ever do anything like imitate or copy somebody, but just note how they attract other people in a positive way. It is likely something small like someone who is interested. So for example, when you say ‘hi, how are you today?’ – they don’t just say ‘fine’ or ‘fine thanks’ – they ask ‘and how are you doing?’ The major point actually listen to the answer.
There has always been sarcasm about the remark, ‘let’s do lunch’ – as if it is a huge joke that is meaningless and if you showed up for lunch people would think you are needy and naive. So the point is to really be interested in people’s replies. Don’t look away as if you are pre-occupied or couldn’t care less how they are. This will not only make the other person feel good and to realize you are a self-confident, kindly person, but may lead into a business discussion. How can I help you? What do you need? You know I have this new opportunity you might be interested in.
… and for God’s sake – really show up for lunch if you mention it!